Blog: Advice to Former Scientologists Newly Out - 2018-05-10
Hello. Recently I celebrated what has been five years out of Scientology. I've made a few videos and written articles about recovering from Scientology and everything that entails. This video is meant for anyone out there who has recently left Scientology behind too and who is wondering what's up and where to go next. It would take a book to really answer that, but I thought a short video might be helpful. All of what I'm going to say here is just my opinion. I'm not going to try to psychoanalyze or evaluate for you here and you can feel free to reject anything I say.
The first thing I want to say is congratulations. Whatever the circumstances of your leaving were: whether you just left quietly, you routed off staff or out of the Sea Org, or you just blew, you did the right thing in getting away from Scientology. I know how hard it can be to step out from under the rules and controls the Church of Scientology places on a person. If you got out of the Sea Organization, you know that it's especially not easy there. You probably had to jump through a lot of hoops, or you may have just been unceremoniously kicked to the curb and you may even be a bit surprised that they would do that to you. Well, yes, the harsh truth is that they would.
If you have been disconnected from anyone or declared a Suppressive Person, let me just say that I know it's not easy to lose friends and family. Disconnection is a form of emotional blackmail and David Miscavige weaponized the entire body of ethics tech by applying it in the worst possible way. His RTC Representatives and the staff in the Commodore's Messenger Org were turned into a kind of Gestapo years ago and the only thing they really do is enforce Miscavige's will on all of the Sea Org and staff. I know Gestapo is a strong word but in this case, it really does apply. They are rarely given a choice as to how they are going to treat Scientologists. There's no easy or simple way to deal with the loss of loved ones. I know it's tough and I know that this is not a lot of consolation, but what I can tell you from my experience and what I've seen with many other ex-Scientologists is that the hardest part is at the very beginning. It will get better. For every Scientology friend or family member you lose, there are easily 10 or more friends out here in the real world who will welcome you with open arms. I'm not even kidding. When I was a Scientologist, I had a few hundred Facebook friends who were Scientologists. I now have over 1400 Facebook friends, another 500 who follow my posts and thousands of people following me on Twitter and subscribed to this channel on YouTube. I'm not bragging, because compared to other YouTubers I have a pretty small channel. My point is that there are a lot of people outside of Scientology who you can connect with and who are not going to pretend to be your friend until the Ethics Officer tells them they can't be anymore. That's not true friendship. Real friends stick by you no matter what and I don't regret leaving Scientology and losing the friends I had because I've made much better ones online and in the real world who will be around for the rest of my life.